A DATE WITH THE OTHER WOMAN
Apr 18 2008
After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping alive
the spark of love. A little while ago I started to go out with another
woman. It was really my wife’s idea.
“I know you love her,” she said one day, taking me by surprise.
“But I love YOU!” I protested.
“I know, but you also love her.”
The other woman my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been
a widow for 19 years. The demands of my work and my three children had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night, I called
to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
“What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of
woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is
a sign of bad news.
“I thought it would be pleasant to pass some time with you,” I
responded. “Just the two of us.”
She thought about it for a moment, then said, “I would like that very
That Friday, after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit
nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed
to be nervous about our date. She waited in the doorway with her coat
on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had
worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face
that was as radiant as an angel’s.
“I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they
were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait
to hear about our meeting.”
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and
cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.
After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read
large print. Halfway through the entree, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom
sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she
“Then it’s time you relaxed and let me return the favor,” I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing
extraordinary – just catching up on recent events of each other’s
lives. We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you
again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed and kissed her
“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.
“Very nice. Much nicer than I could have imagined,” I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It
happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for
Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant
receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note
said: “I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn’t
be there, but, never-the-less, I paid for two plates –one for you and
the other for you wife. You will never know what that night meant to
me. I love you.”
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying, “I LOVE YOU” in
time, and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life
is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they
deserve, because these things cannot always be put off to “some other time.”